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Re: Building Confidence
Posted by N. on July 04, 2008 at 06:28:29:
Hi Randy,
I read this man's post tonight and I really felt I had to make a comment. I am a 25 year old female and until last night, I was still a virgin. The main reason I had waited this long was because I was ashamed of my appearance. I am overweight and have freakishly large breasts. I was terrified of the thought of somebody seeing me naked. It never occurred to me that anybody could actually see me as sexy and attractive. As a result, I had absolutely no sexual experience other than kissing.
Last night I had sex with a very good male friend of mine. It was a wonderful experience. My friend was well aware of my body image issues yet somehow he made me feel beautiful and special. He finally made me realize that I am sexy in my own way, and that I shouldn't let my fear of another person's opinion stop me from expressing my sexuality.
So, my advice to this gentleman is that if he wants to lose weight, then he should do it for the right reasons. Health is a great concern and an excellent motivation - but when it comes to sex, the right person will make you feel comfortable in your own skin and not judge you. The key is being able to communicate your feelings and fears to your partner. The communication alone can make you feel a lot more relaxed and comfortable.
Webmaster Reply:
Excellent advice. Thanks for sending it.Randy