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Male ejaculation problems
Posted by M. on July 03, 2008 at 07:45:51:
Hi, I have been looking on the internet for the past few weeks for information on this and haven't been able to find an answer and I watch your show and thought that maybe you could help me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and have been each others only sexual partners. Every since we had intercourse for the first time he has not been able to ejaculate during intercourse. He has been able to twice I think but any other time after intercourse I have to give him oral and masturbate him for him to ejaculate. He says that during intercourse he can feel it and it feels good he just cant come. I was wondering what would cause this and what we could do to fix it? I'm especially worried because we are getting to the point in the relationship where we are wanting kids and I don't know how that would ever happen if this problem continues. Before we got together he would always masturbate and I am just wondering if since he use to do that as a way to ejaculate if now when we have sex he cant get aroused enough because its not the same as masturbating. Please help if you can.
Webmaster Reply:
Your last concern first - his masturbation history has no bearing on his performance now. Males should masturbate regularly because it lowers the chances of getting prostate cancer. His current problem of not ejaculating is classified as Delayed Ejaculation, and 30% of men suffer from it. You can read about it in our Sex Info section. Sometimes this problem can have a psychological root, and I almost wonder if that is the case here. He may unconsciously think cumming inside you is 'dirty' (guys get this message from religious teachings in childhood), or he may have a fear of pregnancy, or disease, or some other unconscious concern. Anyway, try the usual techniques, and ultimately he may have to talk with his doctor or a counsellor about it.Randy