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Building Confidence
Posted by M. on July 03, 2008 at 07:29:26:
I'm a 27 years old male and I'm a virgin. I know a female who is willing to have sex with me but I'm not sure if I'm ready. I'm a large, overweight man and I'm ashamed of my looks. I know I need to lose weight but I'm having difficulties in that department. Could you give me any advice on building confidence or should I stay far away from any girl until I'm 190 lbs?
Webmaster Reply:
"A female who is willing to have sex with me" doesn't exactly sound like love! I hope this is a friend. Many people are overweight, as we are frequently told by the media, so low self-esteem is a definite issue for millions right now. So, you are not alone in these feelings. Yes, losing weight is a great idea, but no matter what your size or shape, if you find a partner whom you love and care for, and who cares about you, then intimacy grows regardless. Sex will be part of that intimacy. You don't need to force the issue. I think there's a book you would find helpful - 'Shy Man Syndrome' by Brian Gilmartin. It will address many of your concerns. Check it out.Randy