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A couple things
Posted by A. on June 27, 2008 at 07:28:52:
I am actually experiencing a few issues which I would like some advice on. I am a first time mom and a new wife and I think my husband is experiencing the "Madonna complex" before I got pregnant we had sex 3-6 times a day, he loved to give and receive oral and we engaged in some kinky activities. From the moment I started showing or got married, they were around the same time he stopped being as interested in sex. By the last month or so of pregnancy he would not engage in sex with me. After our son was 2 months old we started having sex again but it is rare, he will not perform oral sex, and is not interested in doing anything kinky with me. He has been watching porn and cybering which is not a problem except I think it is replacing the actions with me. I have been very patient with it but it has been 6 months now and I am wondering if there is anything I can do. While I know it will never be the same as it was before we became a married couple and parents I would like to know what I might be able to do to help him see me as a sexual being again.
Webmaster Reply:
This 'Madonna' complex is a fairly common thing for new dads. Get this book and give it a read - "Sexy Mamas" by Cathy Winks. It describes perfectly how to handle this type of situation.Randy