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Re: Frustrated
Posted by J. on June 10, 2008 at 06:44:36:
In regards to the young man that is frustrated with his performance. When I was young and was not married I found myself often distracted during sex. 1) I would be thinking to much about the act and get overly excited and would not last very long. 2) (Majority of times) I would think about the young woman possibly getting pregnant, even while we were both being careful use of condom or birth control. The thought of getting someone pregnant when I was not ready for kids scared me to death. Once I became married I found that I lasted for long periods of times at least an hour or even over two. When you are in this position it is hard to get into the act without mentally going overboard and causing yourself to ejaculate to quick. I know this is awful to say but I would mentally block out the act. I would think about other things (work, sports, grandma - ha ha not really) until she became satisfied and then think more about the act and ejaculate. I found this very helpful. Also, if your young lady was into oral as mine is. I would always have her climax at least twice during oral stimulation and then go from there. That way you are both satisfied.
To all young men out there (and Im not old Im 29). I learned at a young age (16-17) because I was always with women that were a couple years older than me (They taught me well) that it is ALWAYS better to satisfy the lady first. Do not let sex just be about you. Do not just jump into bed and expect sparks to fly. Start out kissing and rubbing her back etc, show her that you care. Warm her up a little bit. Women do not operate like men, they are wired different. Follow these thoughts and you will be better off, even if you are just with one woman your whole life.
Webmaster Reply:
Remarkably wise advice from a 29-year-old! Thanks for sharing your experience.Randy